A few weeks ago we were visiting a couple from our church who have a young baby. As we were talking a sad reality came to light. It seems that social connections at church are largely determined by the presence of children or one's marital status.
I recently read an article by a man on a popular Christian magazine site giving advice to the ladies in waiting. To be honest I thought his advice was a lame excuse for men choosing to act like adolescents and waiting for a woman to fix their problems. I fear this sends a message to women that men have pretty much just given up on maturity and you must take the lead. To this I say wrong! Please don't settle for a man child, because real, godly, mature men still exist.
I write a lot on this blog of marriage and my experiences being married. I write about this topic because it's relevant to my life at this point. However, before this current season I spent a lot of time being single. I've written a few posts about those days: Just Wait, When Everyone Else is Getting Engaged and Encouragement for Single Women. Although those were not the most favourite or preferred times in my life, they were necessary and one lesson I learned was to be content on my own.
Good things don’t come easy or fast. You must wait for them and seek them out.
We are all trying to convince each other we're content by saying: “I'd love to be dating but, i'm good right now I'm not looking for a boyfriend God will bring me my prince charming I'm just really content with my life I’m too busy with school, this would not be a good time to …
Within the past two years it seems I’ve know a lot of couples who’ve gotten married or engaged. (Just today I found out about two young ladies at church that had recently gotten engaged). This is serious, people aren’t just dating anymore. I think I could’ve handled dating. Marriage is a huge step, it’s almost mind-blowing to me. Most of these couples are in their early twenties or late teens. It just seems almost preposterous to me, especially when there are virtually no potentials on my horizon.
A lot of times I feel very discouraged that I haven't met the right guy or have never been in a relationship. Especially when I see other couples holding hands, working out at the gym together or at a party. It's hard not to feel sad and lonely. When I'm feeling down I try to remember these tips: